They own their mistakes instead of blaming you, their exes, or the world.
The red-flag opposite: Every problem is someone else's fault
Their words and actions match — on good days and bad days, in private and in public.
The red-flag opposite: Hot-and-cold swings, or a charming public face that disappears at home
They hear "no" or "not yet" without pressure, sulking, or punishment.
The red-flag opposite: Guilt-tripping, checking your phone, or isolating you
They feel big emotions but handle them without exploding, punishing, or shutting you out.
The red-flag opposite: Rage, silent treatment, or threats when upset
A real apology names what happened, shows understanding, and comes with changed behavior.
The red-flag opposite: "I'm sorry you feel that way" — or apologies with no change
They care how you feel, even when it's inconvenient for them.
The red-flag opposite: Conversations always circle back to them
Think of one person. Tick each green flag you've seen from them consistently — over months, not just the first few dates.
Start ticking the green flags you've seen.
Healthy people still have bad days. The difference is the pattern: they repair, learn, and keep treating you with respect over time. Look for green flags that hold steady for months, not just the first few dates.